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Showing posts with label Motivation. Show all posts
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Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Belanja Untuk Hidup, Bukan Hidup Untuk Belanja
Lapan (8) Perkara Paling Penting Untuk Berbelanja Dengan Bijak Dan Selamat 


Ramai di antara kita yang selalu berbelanja sakan macam dunia ini anda yang punya! Wah gembiranya perasaan waktu itu. Mana tak nya? Tudung jenama popular pulak tengah promosi sakan, kita yang rasa nak cantik macam selebriti ni mulalah meroyan rasa macam nak beli semuanya! Kalau boleh semua design kita nak! “Kau rasa kau ni artist kah?” Hmmm…  Ini bukan retis…ini menangis jawabnya!

Inilah rata-rata senario yang kita lihat hari ini, di mana ramai pembeli akan merasakan mereka patut berbelanja lebih bila mereka ada peluang, tetapi mereka tak sedar yang mereka telah terlebih berbelanja sehingga kadang-kadang menjadi mangsa terhadap promosi, iklan dan macam-macam lagi tawaran-tawaran yang merambangkan mata! Tak salah nak bershopping ala-ala self reward sekali sekala… Tapi mesti ada cara yang betul, mesti ada strateginya.

Jadi persoalannya di sini bagaimana kita hendak mengawal diri kita ini untuk berbelanja dengan cara yang betul?

Jom kita ikut cara-cara ini!

1) SENTIASA SEDIAKAN SENARAI HARGA BARANG YANG HENDAK DIBELI Kalau tak follow, memang larilah budget jawabnya. Huhu…!

2) SENTIASA BUAT PERBANDINGAN ANTARA HARGA DAN KUALITI DAHULU SEBELUM MEMBELI. Kena rajin buat perbandingan, mungkin masa membeli belah kita akan banyak terbuang. Tetapi hasilnya akan nampak bila kita check resitnya nanti.

3) JANGAN BAWA WANG YANG TERLALU BANYAK KETIKA MEMBELI. Bawa wang ikut anggaran harga barang-barang yang nak dibeli. Lebih sikit tak mengapa. Tapi kalau boleh bawak cukup-cukup saja. Kalau dah tau anda tu memang seorang yang boros, memang tak selamatlah kalau anda bawak duit lebih.

4) SENTIASA SEMAK RESIT BELIAN ANDA. Bab-bab ni memang kena cerewet sikit. Ini penting untuk mengelakkan anda terlebih bayar (over-charged). Kadang-kadang ada jurujual yang tersalah tekan, tersalah scan dan sebagainya. Karang tak pasal-pasal kita pulak yang terpaksa menanggung kerugiannya!

5) JANGAN MEMBELI HANYA BERDASARKAN JENAMA. Ramai di antara kita yang terpengaruh dengan barangan import atau “branded goods” yang kadang-kadang jauh lebih mahal dari barang local. Yang penting belilah barangan yang berkualiti. Ibarat alah membeli menang memakai gitu!

6) JANGAN MUDAH TERPENGARUH DENGAN IKLAN ATAU PROMOSI. Baca dengan teliti setiap promosi yang kita nampak atau terima. Kadang-kadang indah khabar dari rupa ye.

7) ELAKKAN BERBELANJA MENGGUNAKAN KAD KREDIT. Ini menggalakkan anda berhutang. Bahaya! Siapa yang dah terkena penyakit ni memang susah nak pulih. Oleh itu elak. Kalau boleh tak pakai langsung.

8) BERBELANJALAH BERDASARKAN KEMAMPUAN ANDA DAN APA KEPENTINGANNYA.
Kesimpulannya di sini, ingatlah pada pesanan oleh mak-mak kita iaitu ‘Ukurlah Baju Di Badan Sendiri’. Ya walaupun bunyinya sangat cliche tapi percayalah impaknya sangat tajam dan berkesan kerana, kita berbelanja untuk hidup, bukan hidup untuk belanja.

oleh Team Richworks pada 15 September 2017

Monday, October 31, 2011

How we achieve happiness can be different for each one of us. Our passions, expectations, life experiences, and even our personalities all contribute to the level of happiness we experience in our lives. Some find happiness in their careers while others prefer the bliss found in their marriages or other intimate relationship.
No matter how you define happiness for yourself, there are certain universal and time-proven strategies to bring, and sustain, more happiness into your life. The following 14 ways to live a happy life can be adapted and even customized to fit your needs. Over time, these strategies will become positive and life-changing habits that will begin to bring more happiness, joy and peace into your life.

1. Notice What’s Right
Some of us see the glass as being half-full, while others see the glass as half-empty. The next time you are caught in traffic, begin thinking how nice it is to have a few moments to reflect on the day, focus on a problem you have been trying to solve, or brainstorm on your next big idea. The next time you get in the slow line at the grocery store, take the opportunity to pick up a tabloid magazine and do some “guilty pleasure” reading. Take all that life throws out you and reframe it with what’s right about the situation. At the end of the day, you will more content, at peace and happy. Take the time to begin to notice what’s right and see the world change in front of your eyes.

2. Be Grateful
How many times do you say the words “thank you,” in a day? How many times do you hear these same words? If you are doing the first thing, saying the “thank yous,” the latter will naturally happen. Learn to be grateful and you will be open to receive an abundance of joy and happiness.

3. Remember the Kid You Were
Do you remember how to play? I’m not referring to playing a round of golf or a set of tennis. I’m talking about playing like you did when you were a child – a game of tag; leap frog, or street baseball when the bat is a broken broom handle and the bases are the parked cars. One way to find or maintain your happiness is to remember the kid you were and play!


4. Be Kind
There is no question that by merely watching acts of kindness creates a significant elevation in our moods and increases the desire for us to perform good deeds as well. Kindness is indeed contagious and when we make a commitment to be kind to ourselves and to others we can experience new heights of joy, happiness and enthusiasm for our lives.

5. Spend Time with Your Friends
Although an abundant social and romantic life does not itself guarantee joy, it does have a huge impact on our happiness. Learn to spend time with your friends and make the friendships a priority in your life.

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6. Savor Every Moment
To be in the moment is to live in the moment. Too often we are thinking ahead or looking ahead to the next event or circumstance in our lives, not appreciating the “here and now.” When we savor every moment, we are savoring the happiness in our lives.

7. Rest
There are times when we need the time to unwind, decompress, or to put it simply, just “to chill.” Life comes at all of us hard and fast. Time, as do the days on the calendar, keeps going forward at its own natural pace, which is not always the pace we would choose. Fatigue, stress and exhaustion may begin to settle in on us faster than we may think, or notice. The best remedy for this is indeed rest.

8. Move!
The expression a “runner’s high” does not infer an addiction, but a feeling or a state of mind – a state of euphoria. There is no question exercise, or any physical exertion, elevates your mood and enhances a more positive attitude as well as fosters better personal self-esteem and confidence. Indeed, one way to increase your happiness is to move!
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9. Put on a Happy Face
Sometimes we have to fake it until we make it. I’m not suggesting that we not be honest, real or authentic, but I’m suggesting, sometimes, we just need to put on a happy face and keep moving forward. Researchers claim that smiling and looking like we are happy will indeed make us happier. Studies further show that if we act like we are happy then we can experience greater joy and happiness in our lives.

10. Pursue Your Goals
The absence of goals in our lives, or more specifically avoiding to pursue our goals, makes us feel like we are stuck and ineffective. The pursuit of goals in our personal lives, in our relationships, or with our careers, is the difference between having a mediocre life or a life full of passion and enthusiasm. pursue your goals and watch your happiness soar.

11. Finding Your Calling
Some find meaning in religion or spirituality while others find purpose in their work or relationships. Finding your calling may be much more than accomplishing one simple strategy for increasing your happiness, but having a sense of purpose – of feeling like you are here for a reason – can perhaps bring the greatest joy of all

12. Get into the Flow
Flow is the form of joy, excitement and happiness that occurs when we are so absorbed in an activity we love that we can loose ourselves and time seems to stand still. What creates flow is unique to each one of us. To find and sustain true happiness in our lives, we must get off the sidelines and get into the flow.

13. Play to Your Strengths
One way to achieve flow is by understanding and identifying our strengths and core values, and then begin to use these every day. Once we aware of our strengths and we begin to play to your strengths we can better incorporate them in all aspects of our lives.

14. Don’t Overdo It
Know when to say when. What gives you joy and happiness the first time may not work the second time. Too much of a good thing may begin not to feel as good if the “thing” becomes more of a routine, or an expectation. Set healthy and reasonable boundaries for yourself and don’t overdo it.

Source : pickthebrain.com

Saturday, August 20, 2011


Sejarah Ramadhan
  1. Ramadhan: Ertinya panas terik
  2. Bulan diturunkan Al Quran dan disebut (syahru ramadhana)
  3. Berlakunya Perang Badar Kubra dan mendapat kemenangan.
  4. Bulan dimana Nabi s.a.w mengambil semula Mekah dari tangan Musyrikin dan berakhirnya penyembahan berhala.
  5. Di dalamnya dipilih ada Malam Al-Qadar yakni lebih baik daripada 1000 bulan.
  6. Di pilih untuk ibadat puasa.
  7. Di pilih untuk lain2 ibadat (tadarus Al Quran)

Kelebihan Bulan Ramadhan
  1. Kamu akan di naungi Ramadhan (bagi yang telah meninggal dunia terlepas dari siksa kubur).
  2. Bulan penuh keberkatan.
  3. Di malamnya ada lebih baik daripada 1000 bulan.
  4. Amalan solat sunat menyamai dengan solat fardhu.
  5. Manakala solat fardhu mendapat 70 kali ganda.
  6. Bulan sabar dan pahalanya adalah syurga.
  7. Bulan menambah rezeki.
  8. Memberi berbuka banyak pahala.
  9. Bulan keampunan :-
  • Doa yang paling makbul iaitu doa sebelum berbuka puasa & juga doa ada sepertiga malam.
  • 10 hari pertama adalah mulanya rahmat,
  • 10 hari pertengahan - pengampunan,
  • 10 hari terakhir - kemerdekaan api neraka.

Amalan-amalan di bulan Ramadhan
(Tidak dapat buat semua, jangan tinggal semua)
  1. Mengucapkan Selamat Menyambut Bulan Ramadhan
  2. Menempah pakaian untuk Ramadhan
  3. Niat puasa sebulan pd permulaan Ramadhan
  4. Hendak tidur bacalah 4 ayat terakhir Surah Al Kahfi supaya dapat bangun malam
  5. Berazam melakukan Terawih 20 rakaat (bukan 8 rakaat)
  6. Bertadarus secara bersemak (bukan sendirian)Solat berjemaah setiap waktu
  7. Solat jemaah di masjid/surau
  8. Amalkan Qiyamulail walaupun pendek
  9. Sahur diwaktu akhir
  10. Sahur - utk mengelakkan makanan tidak hadam elakkan makanan pedas dan tutup sahur dengan air susu
  11. Mandi Janabat sebelum Imsak
  12. Kurangkan tidur
  13. Tunaikan Solat sunat fajar (Solat Sunat Subuh)
  14. Tunaikan Solat Dhuha
  15. Tidur waktu cuti (satu jam sebelum Zohor)
  16. Tunaikan solat Rawatib
  17. Jaga pacaindera
  18. Elakkan gosok gigi selepas tergelincir matahari hingga berbuka
  19. Hadiri majlis ilmu
  20. Buat baik kepada ibubapa
  21. Isteri hendaklah taat pada suami
  22. Banyakkan bersedekah
  23. Berbuka dengan 3 biji kurma dan air yang belum dipanaskan oleh api
  24. Berbuka bersama org tua
  25. Jemput tetamu berbuka
  26. Kurangkan berat badan
  27. Banyakkan i'tikaf di masjid (lelaki sahaja)
  28. Baiki hubungan suami isteri
  29. Baiki hubungan jiran
  30. Isteri jauhi drpd keluar memakai mekap & perhiasan
  31. Elakkan berbelanja berlebihan
  32. Kuatkan kesabaran
  33. Banyakkan selawat, istighfar, bertasbih
  34. Berazam beramal (pada malam Lailatul Qadar)
  35. Mengejut anak dan isteri di malam Lailatul Qadar
  36. Elakkan menonton TV yang mengandungi nafsu
  37. Elakkan mendengar radio berunsur hiburan hingga melalaikan
  38. Berdoa dengan nada lembut dan merayu
  39. Jauhkan bercumbu dengan suami/isteri
  40. Mendoakan ibu bapa samaada hidup atau  yang meninggal dunia
  41. Melazimkan solat waktu
  42. Elakkan sebelum berbuka bersiar2 yg menjadikan pandangan liar
  43. Elakkan banyak berhutang
  44. Melepaskan perasaan sedih melepaskan Ramadhan ditakuti tidak bertemu lagi dengan Ramadhan akan datang
  45. Mengeluarkan zakat fitrah

“Sebarkanlah risalah ini semoga Kita sama mendapat menafaat

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

It was a big day for him. He had to present the annual presentation for which he had worked really hard. But when it was his turn to speak in front of his office boss as well as the representatives from all over the world, he felt numb. He was absolutely tongue tied and he was sweating profusely. As he walked towards the front of the table, he felt as if his legs were made out of jelly and that they would give him away any moment. He looked at all the important clients but all he could see was absolute darkness. He could hear someone giving a tiny laugh and that scared him further. "People are laughing at me because I look stupid" he thought. He opened his mouth to speak, but no words came out. He was scared of opening his mouth in public.

If I am not wrong, this is the case with many people, specially school going kids or young adults. Some people would rather be locked in a box with hundred live snakes rather than speak in public. They are afraid of being ridiculed in front of everyone. I myself have faced several situations like this and guess what, I still do. This fear of speaking in public is called Glossophobia which has been derived from the Greek word Glosso which means 'tongue' and Phobos, which means 'fear'. But one needs to learn the ways of overcoming fears of public speaking, as someday or the other, we need to speak in public. Are you ready to learn how to get rid of this fear? Then here are some public speaking tips and tricks which are sure to help you in future.


Public Speaking Tips and Techniques

Have you ever seen a political leader giving a speech during their election campaigns? Have you seen the energy that they give out while speaking and people being bowled over by what they say? Do you think that these politicians do not face any public speaking anxiety? Of course they do. Their speech is going to decide their as well as the country's future, hence they have a tough role to play. But have you ever seen them being all jittery while talking, or fumbling even for once? No! That's because they know the various public speaking tips and tricks. Given below are some useful tips, which will be useful to all.

Be Ready
Whatever you have to present, be prepared with that. If you are prepared with your stuff, that increases your level of confidence. Make sure that all your facts are correct. Do not give others the opportunity to point out mistakes in your presentation. That usually is sometimes responsible for lack of confidence in the speaker.

Practice
Practice! Practice! Practice! You have to practice speaking again and again till you are absolutely confident. Practice speaking in front of the mirror, and also get your family and friends one day and speak in front of them just like the way you would do it in front of others. This is a very important public speaking tip for students as well as for office goers.

Confidence
What do the political leaders have that people who are afraid of speaking in public do not have? Confidence. Yes, confidence comes with experience, but no one expects you to speak like Obama or Sarah Palin when you are up there on stage. Being nervous while speaking in front of so many people, is expected. But you have to be confident that what you are going to do well and that what you are saying is the right thing. Even if you know that you are wrong, be wrong confidently. This is one of the many important public speaking tips and tricks. And remember, practice and proper preparation gives you confidence.

No Written Speech Please
Some people have the habit of reading out the entire speech from a piece of paper. Do not do that. That would only make your audience go off to sleep. Make small notes and keep it with you and refer to it from time to time, but most of the time look at the audience while speaking.

Admit About Your Nervousness
There are some more public speaking tips for kids as well as for adults. Almost everyone suffers from anxiety of public speaking, hence there is no harm in admitting to the audience that you are a bit nervous. I am sure they will try and cooperate with you and that is sure to help you.

D-Day
Some other important public speaking tips and tricks are that you reach the place where you have to give your speech at least half an hour before. When it's time for you to give the speech, take in deep breaths and just try and remember whatever you had prepared. Look at the audience and smile. That will surely do wonders for you. While speaking, don't look at anyone's face, instead focus on a pillar or maybe something that is expression less, slowly count till 10 and then start off with full confidence. If you skip a point, instead of worrying about that just continue and try and sound convincing.

These public speaking tips and tricks are sure to help you boost your confidence the next time you have to speak in public. Just follow these public speaking techniques and be sure of yourself. But remember that you are not over confident. Just relax and be yourself and I am sure that you will do great.

Source : buzzle.com
By Ratnashri Dutta
Published: 10/21/2010

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Use these fail-safe tactics to convert your jangly nerves into performance-boosting allies

A presentation at work
How anxiety shows: You completely blank on your key points and stumble over your explanations.
Your strategy: Befriend your fear. Just before you go on, steal away to the bathroom or your office and take inventory of this groundswell of nerves. "Nerves are normal. The problems arise when people try to ignore them," says the psychologist Robert Rosen, Ph.D., author of Just Enough Anxiety. Acknowledging your fear helps you manage it.  It's like being aware of your body before a big game. "Suddenly, it's just the right amount of anxiety for healthy excitement and power," Rosen says.

A party full of strangers
How anxiety shows: You develop a case of wallflower syndrome.
Your strategy: Make it a game: See how many people you can meet in half an hour. Stand back, pick your spots, and then attack. Start by striking up conversations with people standing on the outskirts of a larger group or conversation circle. By secretly including everyone in the game, you're not adrift in a sea of strangers. Instead, you're compartmentalizing each social subgroup into a task, says Paul J. Rosch, M.D., president of the American Institute of Stress. A surefire conversation starter: "How do you know the host?"

A job interview
How anxiety shows: You talk at breakneck speed and appear desperate.
Your strategy: Interview the interviewer. When you're up for your dream job or one that takes you a step closer to it, anxiety has a way of throwing fuel on the eagerness fire and making you seem needy. Reverse the roles, says Rosch. Yes, you want to be agreeable, but make the boss sell you on the position. Prompt him or her with penetrating questions that go beyond the norm. Ask about hurdles the department or company faced when it tried to make a recent change, or the qualities and skills you'll need in order to take the boss's job in 5 years. These show passion and ambition and will force your interviewer to give you an on-the-ground view of the company's culture.

The 2-foot birdie putt
How anxiety shows: You're suddenly conscious that all eyes are on you.
Your strategy: See, smell, hear, and feel it in your mind. You already know to visualize your shot, but you may not know how detailed that vision should be, says Rosen. The more sensory details you pack in, the more your scenario becomes an actual rehearsal instead of a mental exercise of hope that only amps the pressure. In addition to seeing the ball go in, feel the heat of the sun, hear the traffic, smell the cut grass, hear the ball hit the cup, and feel the breeze on your face as you walk toward the hole, triumphant.


Source: MenHealth.com

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Have you ever put your foot in your mouth and regretted saying something to a woman on a first date? If so, you’re not alone. People Magazine shared a comment from the press gathering at Reese Witherspoon's upcoming film, How Do  You Know, where she shared told the crowd that one blind date corrected her grammar. The date was over in ten minutes

Most of my dating advice for men consists of how to get the girl, how to be successful in love, and tips for making a great impression on a first date.

From time to time, I listen to my female clients complain about that one thing a guy said on the date that turned them off so much, they would not consider giving him a second chance.


If you are a man and want to know exactly what women dislike, this article is for you.
Are you ready?

1. Are those really your breasts?
Sure we know that men are physical and that they undress women with their eyes when they first meet. That’s fine. Regardless of whether she’s wearing a terrific push-up bra or went under the knife, avoid any comments about a woman’s breasts. Even if you believe it’s innocent, women do not.

2. I have a body like a Ferrari.
Don’t laugh but one gentleman wanted to prove to his date why he should be considered as younger than his accurate age that was posted on his online dating profile. While waiting in line for coffee, he described in great detail about his athletic abilities and work-out schedule at the gym. As soon as she heard him compare himself to a Ferrari, she wanted to go home.

3. I’ve been on this site too long.
We know that online dating is a numbers game, but if you haven’t met anyone online in years that led to a significant relationship, either you’re a serial dater or are way too picky. Either way, a woman will not thing you are relationship material.

4. What exactly are you looking for in a relationship?
It’s just a first date. Keep the conversation light and easy. If a woman asked a man the same question, he’d run off in a New York minute. Women, like men, don’t like the pressure either. It’s a date, not a deposition.

5. I don’t believe in marriage.
Although a woman isn’t ordering her bridal gown on a first date, more often than not, she hopes the relationship will go the distance if there’s a spark. If you tell her you have commitment problems, she won’t want to be the one to change you.

6. I’ll call you.
Don’t say you’re going to call to be polite. Women don’t buy the line of “I’ll call you.” It’s simple, but true when they say that actions do speak louder than words. If you’re truly interested, pull out your Smartphone and put another date on the calendar at the end of your first date. It will give you both something to look forward to and will show that you are a man of your word.

7. You’re so hot.
You will think it, but find another way to compliment her. If she looks sexy, tell her you like her dress, shiny hair, or smile. Flatter from the neck up only before you get into the bedroom. “Hot” means “sex” right now to a woman. She may prefer being courted a little bit longer.

8. I had a vasectomy.
Does she really need to know on the first date? Unless she makes a point of representing that she’s looking for children, she’ll think you want to have sex without a condom. Not acceptable.

9. I’m best friends with my ex.
We’re happy there wasn’t a War of the Roses style divorce, but she won’t want to be lower on the totem pole than your ex-wife or ex-girlfriend in the long term. She’ll be happy if you set appropriate boundaries.

10. Do you want to split the check?
Yes dating can be expensive and doesn’t have a money-back guarantee. If it’s your first date, a man should pick up the check. It’s just the way it works in the dating world. You don’t need to pick the swankiest spot in town, but don’t expect her to date you again if its “Dutch” treat. She has plenty of friends to go out with that fit into that category.

Credit : yourtango.com
By : Julie Spira

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

If you want to win the right man's heart, you need to know what it is that makes a man go from just feeling casual about dating you to wanting and needing you on a deeper level. I'm going to take you inside a man's mind you so you understand what it takes to trigger this kind of connection.

And I'm talking about a real man – one who is mature and grounded on a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual level. They are on a great path and open to growing on a deeply personal level. I'm betting that's exactly why you're on this site: to find a quality kind of guy – a real man looking for a real relationship.

So what does a mature, REAL man want in a woman?
  1.  A Real Man Wants "A Woman Who Is Playful"
    There's something that drives men wild and invites them into a deeper level of "connection" – play. Men love to be active and to play. They were raised to express themselves and connect with those around them through action.

    Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and want to talk their way into a man's heart. But the fact is that men don't "feel it" for you because of what you say. It's not your words that make a man attracted to you, it's the experiences you create with him.

    Watch or play sports together, be competitive in casual games like ping pong – even add a little teasing and sarcasm here and there – and you’ll really ramp up the attraction and interest.

  2. A Real Man Wants "A Woman Who Is Independent"
    Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking for a "weaker" woman who will make them feel like they are smarter and more powerful.
    Nothing could be farther from the truth.

    Real men want a woman who inspires them because she has great things going on her own life. They want a woman who has her own purpose other than being in a relationship.

    A great guy isn’t intimidated by independence and success. What matters to a man is that a woman still has space in her life for a great relationship and is grounded and present when she’s with him.

    The best way to communicate this to a man is to stay busy in your own life and not suddenly make him your world. Don't drop your own interests, responsibilities, and friends just to be with him. And then, when you are with him, really BE with him – have fun and give your attention to him and what you're doing together.

  3. A Real Man Wants "A Woman Who Is Emotionally Mature"
    If a man feels attracted to a woman, eventually there's going to be a situation that comes up where you and a man will see something differently and misunderstand each other.

    How will you respond to this and share your feelings?
    A woman who has the maturity to not blame or criticize a man for what she's feeling, but to share her feelings in an honest and authentic way that helps a man better understand her will be attractive to a man. How a woman handles her emotions is one of the most important things men look for when deciding whether or not to get serious with a woman. If she lets her emotions get out of control, this is a big red flag to him.


    On the other hand, if she can present her feelings to him in a calm, non-dramatic manner, she will win his respect and make him feel like she's the kind of woman who will be a real partner to him. He'll see that she can handle things with a cool head rather than becoming a damsel in distress he has to rescue.

  4. A Real Man Wants "A Woman He’s Intensely Attracted To"
    Fact: Men aren't as scared of commitment and relationships as they are scared of being in a relationship with a woman where there is no passion and attraction.

    A common way women accidentally kill the attraction men might be feeling is by either trying too hard to get him to like you, or by acting like the relationship is too serious too soon.

    Relax and let things happen naturally. Make sure you do and say things that interject fun and humor into your relationship from the very start. There's nothing more appealing to a man than a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun.

    You can do this through playful teasing, flirting, humor, and being unpredictable (in a good way). For instance, instead of talking about what he does for a living when you meet him (yawn), ask him about what sports he plays and what drives him. Once you're in a relationship, don't be afraid to shake things up. If you normally go to brunch on Sundays, suggest something completely different like a bike ride and a picnic. Mixing things up keeps the relationship fun for both of you, and being a woman who is open to new experiences is very attractive to him.

Credit : yourtango

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

"How to artfully cool off that heated argument."

Gretchen Rubin, Huffington Post blogger and author of The Happiness Project (forthcoming), recently compiled a list of 23 phrases that can help couples turn a verbal brawl back down to a constructive fight. Here are YourTango's top picks from that list and why we think they work so well.

  1. "You don't have to solve this—it helps me just to talk to you." This is a good response to any "quit whining" complaints—a non-confrontational way to let him know you need a considerate ear not a contrary opinion. Plus, it's actually a compliment in disguise.

  2. "Please try to understand my point of view." One of the first things to fly out the window during an argument is empathy. The more the accusations escalate, the more narrow-minded both parties get. Try this simple plea early in the argument to ensure that both of you approach the issue with the other's feelings in mind.

  3. "This is important to me. Please listen." You would think listening is a built-in function of any argument, but most of the time, we're too busy calculating what to say next to truly pay attention to our partner's words. Use this clarion call and wait a couple of seconds before stating the most important points you want to get across.

  4. "I can see my part in this." The fastest way to a nasty, no-solution impasse is to unload all the blame on one side. Yeah sure, you may think it's justified, but no one likes to be singled out as the only problem. Admitting your part in the matter, no matter how small it was, can help prevent an aggressive "Nuh-Uh!" rebuttal.

  5. "We're getting off the subject." You start discussing the dishes in the sink, and suddenly it becomes a fight over who forgot to gas up the car. An argument can quickly become a large laundry list of complaint after complaint. Use this phrase to steer the conversation back to the main problem that needs to be tackled now.

  6. "What are we really fighting about?" Small tiffs can mask a larger issue, especially if they are frequent and revolve around the same few things. Instead of fighting each and every incident to the bitter end, work with your partner to determine what could be causing the trend. This phrase can be followed up by:

  7. "This isn't just your problem, it's our problem." This statement can change the fight dynamic from you vs. him to you and him vs. this problem.

  8. "Let's take a break for a few minutes." How many hurtful things have you said when emotions trumped common consideration? If you feel the urge to say something just to inflict pain, the best preventative is to call a time-out. Separate, clear your thoughts and maybe sleep on it. You’d be surprised how fast the anger can pass.

  9. "I love you." Nothing throws off an argument better than this ultimate proclamation of affection. As hard as it can be to say during a verbal smackdown, it is an immediate reminder of the basic bonds you share.On a final note, don't forget to reciprocate your partner's own attempts to cool the argument down. The key to mastering this technique is to think emphatically. 

Thursday, December 23, 2010

With constant talk of how often marriages end in divorce, and a slew of experts weighing in on how to have a successful union, we’re relieved to have this list dispelling some commonly held wedded no-nos. —Glo
  1. Don't Go to Bed Angry
    Trying to work through a problem when you’re tired and stressed won’t get you anywhere, says Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D. "Agree to disagree for now, and to revisit the issue when you’re rested."

Wednesday, December 22, 2010


Feel Pretty Now!
“Beauty is about valuing yourself. That’s what gets you noticed.”
  1. Know You’re Prettier Than You Think
    When women look in the mirror, they only see their physical features reflected. What they don’t realize is that it’s a sexy voice, a great sense of humor, a poetic way of speaking or stunning insights that enhance their appeal to others. Remember that you’re even more gorgeous than the mirror tells you.

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

This is 50 Best Sex Tips for man. As for woman you can take this if it suitable for you ^_^

  1. Sex isn't a Race
    Sex isn't a race, so take time to explore her. Focus on her thighs and lower belly. Make a mental circle 2 inches around the outside of her vagina and don't cross the line while you kiss, lick, and caress. 

  2. Give Her Plenty of Time
    If you want morning sex, set your alarm at least 20 minutes early. A woman won't want sex if she's hurried, and she'll probably need about 20 minutes to reach orgasm.

  3. Grunts are Better Than Nothing
    She'll give longer and more enthusiastic oral sex if you give her a verbal response. Even appreciative grunts are better than silence. 

  4. Vary the Stimulation
    When you're all the way inside her, add side-to-side movement or up-and-down pelvic pressure against her clitoris to vary the stimulation.

  5. Make a Fantasy Lottery
    Both you and your lady write five sexual fantasies down on five separate notebook cards. Then head to a restaurant where you can get a booth and some privacy in a public setting. Over dinner and wine, pull out the cards and make three piles—"yes," "maybe someday," and "not on your life." Put the possibles in a shoe box, and once a month pull out a winner. 

  6. Mimic Her Style
    Ask her to kiss your earlobe with the same pressure she prefers during oral, then cop her style next time you're south of the border. 

  7. Exercise Together
    Work out together. Think of it as fat-burning foreplay. It will raise her dopamine levels, easing her anxieties. Bonus: Your post-run sweat has androstadienone, a testosterone derivative that spikes her arousal when she smells it.

  8. Ignore Bombshells
    Remain calm when a decked-out bombshell strolls by and you'll be sending the message that you're too smart to be wowed by a Wonderbra and red lipstick. 

  9. Give Her the Perfect Compliment
    The best compliments are the ones that involve multiple senses. "You have beautiful breasts" is nice. "You have beautiful breasts—they feel so soft and warm in my hands" is that much more intimate. 

  10. Don't Give in to Temptation
    If a woman who knows you're spoken for comes on to you, it's flattering. It's tempting. But remember that she's doing it to feed her own ego, not yours. She wants to see how much power she holds over you. And if you take her bait, she then knows she must be superior in every way to your sweetie. Deep down, she has nothing but contempt for both your male weakness and your mate's existence. That should really piss you off.  

  11. Find Her G-Spot
    Use your thumb to press on her G-spot, as if you were making a thumbprint on her vaginal wall. You're shooting for the area about 2 inches inside the vaginal opening, on the front side. 

  12. Use Your Tongue Wisely
    When kissing, don't use your tongue like a dart (in and out, in and out). Instead, try varying motions and amounts of pressure.

  13. Doggy-Style the Right Way
    Doggy-style tip: For over-the-top stimulation of her most nerve-packed parts, keep thrusting short and shallow, rather than deep and fast. 

  14. Tell Her What She Wants to Hear
    Words she loves to hear: "I want to make you feel good." 

  15. Hang Out with Your Married Pals
    Looking for The One? Don't abandon your spoken-for friends. A guy with a wife or live-in girlfriend has an expanded social circle—meaning he knows more women (that he could potentially introduce you to) than he did when he was single.

  16. Keep Contact Indirect
    The nerve-packed clitoris actually extends several inches under the skin on either side of her vagina (like a wishbone), which means you can massage it without direct pressure to the bud. Trace the extensions with flat, wide, extra-wet tongue strokes or slow finger zigzags. (Don't forget lube.) Then rub a slow spiral around the top, drawing closer with each pass. The combo of anticipation and indirect contact will bring her pleasure centers to life. 

  17. Send Her a Letter
    Write her a letter—one that does not involve a laser printer or an e-mail address. Write what you feel, but the ruling sentiment should be one of gratitude and confidence in your future together. Then mail it to her.

  18. Give Her a V
    To increase clitoral contact when she's on top, make a V with two fingers, and place it so the point of the V (just between the two knuckles) is directly over her clitoris. Your fingers should come down on either side of your penis as she rides you. This will stimulate the clitoris, inner labia, and urethra—as well as add intensity for you. 

  19. Call Her within 48 Hours
    A beautiful woman gave you her number; use it within 48 hours. Otherwise, you'll look scared—or stupid for resorting to high-school mind games.

  20. Leave a Confident Voicemail
    If you get her voicemail, leave a message. To convey confidence, your voice should be deep and moderately loud. Stand up and hum a little before you call—it will bring your voice to the ideal pitch.

  21. Don't Go South During Foreplay
    During foreplay, agree that the genitals are off-limits. Touch the other parts of her body, using fingers, a feather, a silk scarf, or anything that turns her on, and ask her to describe how it feels. This builds the tension until you're both ready to explode.

  22. Ease into Dirty Talk
    Want to know if she likes to talk dirty? Tell her, "You make me think dirty thoughts." Ease in slowly. It's best to test the waters a bit, rather than immediately go for your deepest, kinkiest dirty talk right off the bat. 

  23. Flatter Her 5 Times a Day
    Compliment her at least 5 times a day. It'll make her feel special, appreciated, and closer to you. And the more connected she feels, the more sexually inspired she'll feel.

  24. Shop for Cologne She Likes
    If you don't have a cologne that she likes, shop for one with her. It's a form of foreplay.

  25. Hold Her Hand
    Holding hands can work as an aphrodisiac. It shows her you're devoted and proud to tell the world.

  26. Assume a New Position
    Assume the Cuban Plunge sex position: As you assume the man-on-top position, ask her to bring her knees to her chest and drape her legs over your shoulders. Her vagina will be elongated and extended, and your penetration will be deeper and more pleasurable for her, which qualifies as a win-win situation.

  27. Praise Her
    Compliment her in front of your friends.

  28. Just Kiss
    The next time you kiss her, don't try to steal second. Just kiss. Men use kissing primarily as a means to an end—to advance sexual relations. Yet women mainly use kissing as a way to monitor the status of the relationship, and especially a partner's commitment level.

  29. Keep the Lights Low
    One of the biggest reasons women can't relax during sex is body image. Keep the lights low. A candle? Perfect.

  30. Show Her Passion
    "Passion" means being in the moment and not being distracted. Sex is a conversation, and she doesn't want to feel like you wish you had your BlackBerry.

  31. Whisper Fantasies in Public
    Lie on a blanket in a park, with people all around, and whisper fantasies to one another, sparing no detail. You'll create sexual tension—but with safety, as there's no possibility of sex then and there.

  32. Create Anticipation
    Use anticipation as an aphrodisiac. Instead of tearing her clothes off, take your time. Tell her what you want to do with each section of exposed skin.

  33. Tell Her to Go Slow
    Words she loves to hear: "It's OK to go slow." Say it and mean it.

  34. Sit at a 90-Degree Angle
    On a dinner date, always position yourself at a 90-degree angle to her rather than straight on. If she sits at the end of the table, sit in the first seat to her left. Turn toward her from the waist, which will give her the opportunity to turn toward you.

  35. Don't Agree to Disagree
    When you and your girlfriend disagree, never agree to disagree. Agreeing to disagree shuts down the communication process and resolves nothing. And the less comfortable she feels communicating, the less confident she'll feel about the relationship.

  36. Ask Her for a Kissing Lesson
    Ask her to demonstrate what she considers a sexy kiss. Then let her do all the work. It's educational...and fun. 

  37. Mix Things Up in Bed
    Don't be afraid to mix things up in bed. Sexual novelty re-creates those early-relationship, take-me-now hormones.

  38. Fund a Sexy Shopping Spree
    Fund an erotic shopping spree. Write out a gift certificate with an expiration date that coincides with your evening at a hotel. If she prefers to shop alone, let her—either way, you'll find out what interests her.

  39. Start Volunteering
    Join a volunteer group. Selflessness is sexy—and research has shown that women consider altruism more important than men do. To show your selfless stuff, join a Meetup volunteer group (volunteerism.meetup.com).

  40. Start Sex in a New Place
    Start sex outside the bedroom. The same old place leads to the same old patterns. So explore some new erogenous areas: The kitchen. The bathroom. Quebec City. Your bodies will be in new places, making it unlikely that you'll follow old routines.

  41. Offer Her Chocolate
    Feed her chocolate: It'll load her up with phenylethylamine, a neurotransmitter that activates the brain's pleasure center, and caffeine, which can jolt her sex drive.

  42. Ride in an Overnight Train
    Take an overnight train with your girlfriend or wife. There's the excitement of traveling in a novel way. And there's your sleeping compartment. It's a new place—and it moves, which adds a new dynamic to sex. And it's somewhat public: There's the excitement when you're in flagrante delicto as the train stops, and people are outside your window.

  43. Use Appliances as Vibrators
    Here's a new place to have sex: on the washer. Your washing machine produces more vibration than any other appliance in the home. When your butt's on the lid, the motion is transmitted through your penis, essentially turning your member into a life-size vibrator.

  44. Use Your Beanbag Chair
    Another new place to have sex: in a beanbag chair. You can contour it to any shape, and it'll support you in unaccustomed ways. Doggy-style sex works great when she's on her belly, draped over the amorphous blob (that's the chair, not you).

  45. Have Sex in a Forest
    New Place to Have Sex III: a national park. If the missus likes to vocalize, pitch your tent in Alaska's Denali National Park, where 6 million untamed acres and a crowd-thinning permit system leave little risk of waking the neighbors. She'll gasp in delight when the midnight sun bathes the Big One (that's Mt. McKinley, buddy) in salmon pink light.

  46. Stop the Elevator
    New Place to Have Sex IV: the elevator. Try a freight elevator. It won't have an alarm, and you can stop it between floors for more privacy.

  47. Seduce Her in Your Car
    Relive the past. Take her to the garage and reclaim a space you long ago ceded: Seduce her in the backseat of the car. It feels a little public, it's steeped in testosterone, and there's a throwback, high-school quality to it.

  48. Earn Your Right to Experiment
    Sexual experimentation is earned, not inherited. It requires time, tact, and trust: 66 percent of the women we surveyed said they're most willing to experiment later in a relationship.

  49. Give Her a Proper Warmup
    Clitoral contact in particular feels abrasive without a proper warmup. If a woman yips or inhales suddenly when you go there—instead of purring or moaning—you've jumped the gun.

  50. Try a New Sex Position
    Try the Yab-Yum sex position: You both sit up, and she faces you, sitting on your lap with a pillow under her bottom for easier penetration. You'll have constant contact with her clitoris, but she'll control the pressure.


Source : Men Health

*p/s : Not everything is suitable for all, so take the good leave the rest. It Ok to go slow ^_^

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Contoh:
30 December 1987
30 + 12 + 1987 = 2029
2 + 0 + 2 + 9 =13
1 + 3 = 4 (Jadi nombor lahirnya ialah 4)

Keterangan nombor lahir

1. Ketulenan

- Hadir dengan idea baru.
- Memperolehi sesuatu dengan cara yang tersendiri.
- Golongan ini merupakan yang paling jujur dan boleh mempelajari dengan baik teknik diplomasi.
- Mereka suka mengambil inisiatif dan suka menjadi yang terbaik dan kebiasannya adalah pemimpin atau boss.
- Bekerja sendiri merupakan pilihan terbaik mereka.

Perkara yang perlu dipelajari: Idea dan pendapat yang lain mungkin baik atau lebih baik. Berfikirlah secara terbuka.

Golongan terkenal yang mempunyai nombor lahir 1: Abe, Tom Hanks, Robert Redford, Hulk Hogan, Coral Burnett, Wynona Judd, Nancy Reagan, Requel Welach

2. Pendamai

- Dilahirkan sebagai diplomat.
- Mereka selalu memikirkan dan peka terhadap keperluan dan perasaan orang lain sebelum mengambil kira dirinya sendiri.
- Secara semulajadi sangat analitikal dan suka mengikut gerak hati.
- Mereka tidak suka bersendirian.
-Persahabatan adalah penting buat mereka dan berupaya mendorong mereka untuk berjaya di dalam hidup; tetapi mereka sanggup untuk bersendirian jika hubungan yang terjalin itu tidak serasi.
- Golongan ini secara semulajadi adalah pemalu, mereka patut belajar untuk meningkatkan nilai kendiri (self esteem) dan meluahkan perasaan secara terbuka tanpa berselindung.

Golongan terkenal yang mempunyai nombor lahir 2: President Bill Clinton, Madonna, Whoppi Goldberg, Thomas Edison,Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart.

3. Ceria

- Mereka sangat kreatif, sosial, mesra, romantik dan mudah dibawa berunding.
- Mereka suka memulakan sesuatu tetapi jarang dapat menghabiskannya.
- Mereka suka orang lain gembira dan sanggup melakukan apa sahaja untuk mencapainya.
- Mereka sangat popular dan idealistik.
- Golongan ini perlu belajar untuk melihat sesuatu dengan lebih realistik.

Golongan terkenal yang mempunyai nombor lahir 3: Alan Alda, Ann Landers, Bill Cosby, Melanie Griffith, Salvador Dali, Jody Foster

4. Konservatif

- Golongan ini sangat peka dan tradisional.
- Mereka sukakan arahan dan sesuatu yang rutin.
- Mereka hanya akan bertindak apabila faham sepenuhnya tentang apa yang sepatutnya mereka lakukan.
- Mereka suka bekerja keras dan sangguh melakukan sesuatu kerja secara sendirian.
- Mereka mudah tertarik dengan aktiviti luar dan merasai pertalian dengan alam sekitar.
- Mereka berupaya untuk bersabar, tekun dan adakala dianggap degil.
- Mereka harus belajar untuk lebih feksibel dan bersikap lebih baik terhadap diri sendiri.

Golongan terkenal yang mempunyai nombor lahir 4: Neil Diamond, Margaret Thatcher, Arnorld Schwarzenegger, Tina Turner, Paul Hogan

5. Perintis

- Mereka adalah perintis.
- Secara semulajadi mereka mempunyai sikap ingin tahu dan suka mengambil risiko serta sangat bersemangat (enthusiasm).
- Mereka perlukan kepelbagaian dan tidak suka disekat.
- Dunia ini adalah sekolah mereka, mereka memerhatikan setiap peluang untuk mempelajari sesuatu daripada setiap situasi yang ditempuhi.
- Persoalan yang bermain difikiran mereka tidak pernah terhenti.
- Golongan ini dinasihatkan untuk melihat sesuatu dengan teliti dan mendapat semua fakta yang diperlukan sebelum membuat sesuatu kesimpulan.

Golongan terkenal yang mempunyai nombor lahir 5: Abraham Lincoln, Chorlotte Bronte, Jessica Walter, Vincent Van Goh, Bette Midler, Helen Kellar dan Mark Hamil.

6. Romantik

- Golongan ini adalah idealistik dan memerlukan sesuatu sebab untuk berasa gembira.
- Hubungan kekeluarga yang kuat adalah penting buat mereka.
- Perasaan mereka mempengaruhi keputusan mereka.
- Mereka sangat suka untuk membantu dan menjaga seseorang.
- Mereka sangat setia dan boleh menjadi guru yang terbaik.
- Mereka suka seni musik.
- Mereka menjadi teman yang setia kepada sesiapa yang menjalin persahabatan secara serius.
- Golongan ini harus belajar apakah yang boleh diubah dan apakah yang tidak boleh diubahnya.

Golongan terkenal yang mempunyai nombor lahir 6: Albert Einstein, Jane Saymour, John Denver, Merly Streep, Christopher Columbus, Goldie Hawn

7. Intelektual

-Golongan ini adalah Pencari. Selalu menyelesaikan sesuatu yang tersembunyi, dan mereka sukar untuk menerima sesuatu perkara dengan mudah. -
Perasaan mereka tidak mempengaruhi keputusan mereka.
- Mereka suka mempersoalkan apa yang ada disekeliling mereka tetapi mereka tidak suka dipersoalkan.
- Mereka kerap dikenali sebagai ahli falsafah dan sangat berpengetahuan dan kadangkala bersendirian.
- Mereka gemarkan perkara yang berteknikal dan berkebolehan untuk menjadi penyelidik yang baik dalam menyelesaikan sesuatu perkara.
- Mereka sangat suka berahsia.
- Golongan ini hidup dalam dunia mereka tersendiri dan mereka perlu belajar untuk menerima kenyataan dunia sebenar.

Golongan terkenal yang mempunyai nombor lahir 7: William Shakespeare, Lucille Ball, Micheal Jackson, Joan Baez, Princess Diana

8. Penyelesaian

- Golongan ini adalah penyelesaian masalah.
- Mereka adalah profesional, berterus terang, penilai yang baik dan sangat tegas.
- Mereka selalu mempunyai perancangan yang hebat dan suka hidup dalam suasana kehidupan yang terbaik.
- Mereka sangat suka mengendalikan manusia. Mereka melihat manusia secara objektif.
- Mereka akan memberitahu seseorang dengan cara mereka tersendiri bahawa mereka adalah ketua.
- Golongan ini perlu belajar untuk membuat keputusan berdasarkan keperluan sendiri daripada mengikut keperluan orang lain.

Golongan terkenal yang mempunyai nombor lahir 8: Edgar Cayce, Barbra Streisand, George Harrison,Jane Fonda, Pablo Picasso, Aretha Franklin, Nostrodamus.

9. Pelakon

- Golongan ini mempunyai kebolehan untuk menghiburkan orang lain.
- Mereka sangat penyayang dan pemurah.
- Dengan daya tarikan yang ada, mereka tidak mempunyai masalah untuk berkawan dengan sesiapa jua dan pada mereka tiada sesiapapun yang dianggap asing kepada mereka.
- Mereka mempunyai personaliti yang pelbagai sehingga menyukarkan orang sekeliling mereka untuk memahami mereka.
- Mereka umpama binatang sumpah-sumpah yang boleh berubah dan menyesuaikan diri mengikut persekitaran.
- Mereka mempunyai nasib yang sangat baik tetapi juga boleh menderita akibat terlalu bergantung kepada nasib dan perasaan (mood).
- Untuk berjaya golongan ini perlu membina landasan kasih sayang.

Golongan terkenal yang mempunyai nombor lahir 9: Albert Schweitzer, Shirley MacLaine, Harrison Ford, Gloria Steinem, Jimmy Carter, Elvis Presley.

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Bila kte sebut je melayu, pandangan org terhadap kte mesti mojoritinya teruk.. apa dh jd dgn bangsa kte ni?
Aku sbg org melyu berasa sedih ngn sikap bngse kte ni..

Come on la bro, stakat name BRO sane BRO sini, TAIKO sane TAIKO sni wtper?? klu msh xdpt nk tlg, bimbing anak2 bangse, adik2, keluarga kte sendri? Antara berhala besar dlm manusia adalah KUASA! PANGKAT! so tlg la, yg dh de kt ats tu, tlg2 org dibwh, bkn menindasnye.

Lagu dendangan Malique bertajuk Layu ini sgt sesuai utk menyedarkn bngse melayu kte.. Bangunla whi bangsa melayu, kte bersatu menjadi contoh pd2 yg lain kerna kte jga membawa imej ISLAM di Malaysia ini, ktenye takkan melayu hilang di dunia... tp fikirla la, buat apa klu ADA jika KEWUJUDAN tak dirasa?? Amikla lagu ni sbgi satu kesedaran dan kenyataan tentang kte wahai bngse malayu! dan untuk menjadi lebih baik dr semlm.. AMIN






Layu - Malique

Aku lihat layu dalam Melayu
Aku pasti bukan aku seorang saja yang nampak
Ada juga bercadang bertanya tuan punya
Tapi bercampur risau dengan tak tergamak
Nanti dikata tak bersyukur, dikata tak sedar diri
Jadi aku menyendiri, memerhati dan akhirnya mengakui
Yang kita sendiri
Membiarkan bunga raya melayu ke kanan
Dan dibiar bunga tak cantik mekar di kiri

Aku lihat layu dalam Melayu
Tanah air kita yang punya
Kita siram, kita baja tapi angin api kita lupa
Mereka merancang masa menjilat bangsa

13 harimau bertukar menjadi mangsa
Kita lupa nenek moyang kaya-raya
Jangan sekali-kali digadai harta-bendanya

Ku lihat layu dalam Melayu
Ku lihat layu dalam Melayu
Ku lihat layu dalam Melayu

Takkan Melayu hilang di dunia
Ya... tapi apa guna tak hilang di dunia
Kalau kewujudan tidak dirasa
Petah berbahasa kudrat tak berjasa
Orang berbudi kita hanya tahu merasa
Selalu lari bila dirapat
Selalu malu bila soalan diaju
Selalu segan memberi pendapat
Rela mengikut dari meneraju
Belum nyanyi sudah bersorak
Suka berjanji dalam borak
Bukan kata tak ada otak
Cuma tak berfikir di luar kotak

Ku lihat layu dalam Melayu
Ku lihat layu dalam Melayu
Ku lihat layu dalam Melayu

Aku jadi sayu
Bunga menangis dia mendayu
Mahu jadi cantik tetapi ragu
Aku merayu
Bangunlah semula hidup kembali
Jangan tunggu matahari mati
Cepatlah mekar sebelum terlerai

Perjuangan kita belum selesai

Perjuangan kita belum selesai

Perjuangan kita belum selesai

Friday, May 14, 2010

1. Garang
( garang tak bertempat, suka mencarut, suka cari gaduh, cakap kasar, suka marah2 tak bertempat, silap sikit tak boleh... macam lah dia betul semua, dan sebagainya). Lelaki perlu menginsafi diri bahawa wanita bukan alat untuk melepaskan kemarahan atau perasaan geram, sebaliknya dihargai dan dilayan dengan lemah-lembut.

2. Ganas
(kaki pukul,dengan perempuan pun nak tunjuk kuat sebab tahu perempuan bukan lawannya) Lelaki bersikap ganas memang perkara utama yang dijauhi wanita sebab tak mahu mata biru atau badan lebam-lebam bila dah kahwin. Tidak kasihankah lelaki pada wanita yang lemah? Wanita bukan lawan lelaki sebaliknya lelakilah yang patut melindungi wanita.

3. Gementar
(takut sangat, tak yakin diri sendiri, tak percaya kebolehan diri, bergantung pada orang lain,dan sebagainya) Contohnya,depan perempuan, lidah kelu sampai ayat yang dilafazkan pun tak jelas isi butir. Lelaki perlu mengatasi rasa gementar.

4. Gabrah
(tak pandai buat keputusan sendiri, ikut pendapat perempuan saja) Perempuan tak suka lelaki yang tiada keyakinan diri atau cepat panik menghadapi sesuatu perkara.

5. Gentleman tiada
(langsung tak gentle, pentingkan diri sendiri, ambik kesempatan, dan sebagainya) Kalau masa bercinta tak gentleman,inikan pula kalau dah kahwin nanti. Lelaki perlulah menghormati wanita selayaknya. Sudah pasti wanita itu juga akan menghormati lelaki dengan perasaan hormat lagi.

6. Gerumal
(bahasa kedah -bohong atau tipu. Suka tipu perempuan untuk kepentingan diri sendiri. Sekali dua boleh maaf, tapi ni berkali2.) Lelaki tidak boleh menggunakan alasan bohong sunat untuk melepaskan diri sebaliknya belajarlah untuk menjadi jujur dan bercakap benar dengan wanita.Bukankah berani kerana benar, takut kerana salah? Jika asyik membohongi wanita, sudah pasti kepercayaannnya kepada anda akan musnah.

7. Ganggo
(keterlaluan- lembut sangat,pemalu sangat,pendiam sangat, macho sangat, dll). Perempuan pun naik lemas jika lelaki bersikap keterlaluan dalam sesuatu hal.Cubalah bersikap sederhana dan mengimbangi karektor diri anda dengan baik.


8. Gatal
(miang keladi dengan perempuan lain selain dengan isteri). Tak boleh tengok perempuan dahi licin atau anak dara, mulalah pasang niat nak mengorat. Anda perlu ingat, kadangkala perempuan berpura2 melayan anda kerana ada udang sebalik batu.Mungkin dia bermata materialistik dan cintakan duit anda sahaja. Fahamilah perasaan isteri atau pasangan anda yang mencintai anda sepenuh hati! Bukankah lebih baik menggoda isteri sah anda daripada menggoda perempuan lain yang bukan hak anda.


SUMBER : Dr. Fadzilah Kamsah...

*p/s : sila baca ini so kte akan thu sebnrnyer kte kaum adam & hawa needed for each other to build a hormony life :) >>  Perkara untuk wanita tahu tentang laki

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

It’s not always easy to remember every name, face, number, or important piece of information.  Memorizing, especially for students, may seem like a dull a task and this idea makes accomplishing it all the more difficult.   But there are ways to make it more interesting and easier to do.  For others, it can get so frustrating when you can’t remember a name or a word but you feel it on the tip of your tongue.  It can also be embarrassing when you bump into someone and you completely forgot his name.  When you go out at night and you meet somebody interesting, memorizing that person’s phone number when you don’t have a pen with you and while you’re already on your third drink may seem impossible to do.  But with these tips, it shouldn’t be too much of a headache anymore.

Look for patterns
This is especially helpful when you need to remember a large number or a long phrase.  For example, the following sequence of numbers may seem random but actually follows a pattern: 3810151722242931363843.  The pattern is adding 5 to the first number, then adding 2, and the pattern simply repeats.  Once you figure this out, all you need to remember is the first number.  You can use a similar pattern to create a numeric password that you can regularly change.  You can also picture your fingers keying in the numbers on a numerical keyboard to help you remember.

Make associations
This is also very effective when you need to memorize numbers.  You break down the long sequence into smaller portions which you then associate with a word.  Given this sequence,74736052007365, you can break this up into the following:

  • 747 is a jumbo jet
  • 360 is an XBox
  • 52 is a deck of cards
  • 007 is James Bond
  • 365 are the days of the year
You can also try making an image that incorporates these odd items, it’ll take some creativity but it works.
Alphabetize your lists
Putting your list in alphabetical order, especially a very long list, will help you remember all the items on it.  The best example is memorizing all the 50 states of the USA.  Using the alphabet as your guide, start with the letter A and memorize all the states that begin with it.  Go through the alphabet until you’ve named all the states.

Categorize the items on your list
With big lists, find similarities and put them in groups.  With your shopping list, for example, you can divide your list into: fruits, dried goods, dairy, bathroom products.  It would also help to put the groups in your list in the order that they are found in the supermarket.

Chunk numbers
We don’t notice it, but we use this strategy everyday, especially when remembering phone numbers.  We usually divide a telephone number into two chunks, the first 3 digits (area code) and the last 4.  Chunking is the most effective way of remembering random numbers and very long sequences like pi to n digits.

Assign images
You can use this trick to remember a name.  To remember Patty Smith, you can imagine a meat patty.  Rudolf West can be the famous reindeer wearing a cowboy hat.  Just use your imagination.  Another way to remember people and their names is to associate them with somebody else you know.  You can picture them laughing together or shaking hands.

Assign a place
This is actually an ancient practice to help remember things, called Loci.  You place the objects you need to remember in specific locations of your house, for example.  If you have a list of people you need to call, place each one of them in different rooms in your house.  To remember the list, move through the rooms in your house and see who you put there.  If you have more items on your list than rooms in your house, simply add rooms too.

Make up a story
This is not only very helpful but fun to do too.  Simply make up a story that includes all the things that you need to remember.  The more ridiculous the story is, the more effective it’s going to be.

Apply mnemonics
A mnemonic is a short rhyme or phrase that you can use as a key to make information easier to memorize.  When you were a kid, for example, you memorized the colors of the rainbow by remembering the odd word “ROGBIV.”  Another example is differentiating between desert and dessert; you were taught to remember that the sweet one has two sugars.

Use your senses
You can try remembering a word or a phrase using your senses.  To remind yourself, for example, to buy soap, you can try to remember how it smells.  The sound of a phone ringing can help you remember that you need to call back a client.
You can use these tips individually or together, whichever works best for you to improve your memory.  Just remember, practice makes perfect.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Didikan Allah Untuk Bakal Manusia Hebat !!

Macam mana ya ustaz? Bagaimana nak buang perasaan ini?” tanya salah seorang peserta Kem HIJRI.

“Hmm… kamu sendiri rasa bagaimana?” saya memulangkan soalan itu kepadanya.

“Entahlah, saya tak boleh buang rasa tidak puas hati saya dengan emak dan ayah. Makin menjadi-jadi perasaan itu” katanya lagi.

“Apa yang paling kamu tidak suka tentang emak dan ayah kamu?” saya menyoalnya lagi.

“Saya tengok, kawan-kawan saya boleh ketawa dan bergurau dengan emak dan ayah mereka. Tetapi orang tua saya tidak pernah buat begitu. Mereka jarang mahu berbual dengan kami,” pelajar Tingkatan 3 itu menyambung kisah.


Rasa tidak berpuas hati dengan ibu bapa sering berlaku kepada anak remaja. Ia selalu terjadi apabila anak masuk ke usia sekolah menengah. Lazimnya perasaan itu timbul kerana pada usia begini, anak-anak mula bertandang ke rumah rakan, kadang-kadang tidur di rumah mereka, dan menjadi semakin memerhati serta memahami apa yang dilihat. Melihat cara ibu dan bapa rakan-rakan melayan keluarga mereka, menyebabkan si anak ‘tersedar’ tentang benda-benda yang tiada di rumahnya selama ini.
Kesan perbandingan.

DI PIHAK IBU BAPA

Jika perbandingan menjadi punca anak-anak tidak berpuas hati dengan ibu bapa, apakah yang patut dibuat? Adakah dengan menghentikan saingan itu, menghalang anak ke rumah rakan dan menegah mereka daripada membanding-bandingkan?

Untuk ibu dan bapa, mereka harus bertindak lebih baik daripada itu. Menyekat dan menghalang, hanya menunjukkan kelemahan kita yang mahu menggunakan kuasa, tanpa mahu meningkatkan pengaruh ke atas anak-anak. Tatkala anak membanding-banding kita dengan ibu bapa kawan mereka, itu adalah petanda kemerosotan pengaruh kita ke atas mereka. Justeru pengaruh itu mesti dipulihkan, dengan memperbaiki kualiti diri.

Muhasabah kembali, siapakah yang memperkenalkan ‘perangai membanding-bandingkan’ itu? Jika kita pernah membandingkan si anak dengan anak orang lain, merendah-rendahkannya di hadapan sepupu yang ‘lebih berjaya’, maka kita hakikatnya sedang menuai hasil tanaman sendiri. What you give, you get back!
Maka haruslah kita sebagai ibu dan bapa, bertindak mengubah keadaan itu. Berhenti membandingkan anak hingga hilang harga diri mereka, putus asa daripada berusaha memuaskan hati kita yang lebih risaukan satu B berbanding empat A dalam lima mata pelajaran yang diambilnya. Kesan banding membandingkan itu, amat perit kepada jiwa anak-anak, sebagaimana yang sedang mula berlaku ke atas diri kita sebagai ibu bapa ketika mereka memanjat usia remaja. Membandingkan kita dengan ibu bapa kawan-kawan mereka.

Berusaha jugalah untuk menyayangi anak dengan kasih sayang yang mereka fahami. Ya, kasih sayang yang difahami sebagai kasih sayang.

Sukar jalannya untuk meyakinkan anak-anak bahawa ibu bapa mereka juga menyayangi mereka, walaupun mungkin dalam bentuk yang berbeza.

Leteran itu sebenarnya sayang, sikap dingin itu sebenarnya sayang, melebihkan orang lain itu hakikatnya sayang, marah dan rotan itu juga sebenarnya sayang… aduh, luar biasa sekali bentuk kasih sayang ibu bapa seperti ini. Hingga akhirnya mungkin si anak akan berkata, “lebih baik mereka tidak menyayangiku, jika kasih sayang mereka semuanya menambah sakit dan derita!”

Mungkin kita memang bertindak begitu kerana menyayangi anak-anak.

Namun cubalah sekali sekala, menyayangi mereka dengan cara yang langsung terus dilihat sebagai kasih sayang.

Berikan telinga kepada si anak untuk mendengar keluhan mereka.

Bapa capailah bahu anak dari belakang, goncangkan tubuh mereka dalam pelukan mesra, tanda menyokong mereka untuk berjaya.

Ibu sikatlah rambut anak tanpa diminta, dan sesekali suapkan nasi ke mulut anak, biar pun dia sudah di Tingkatan 3.

Satu kasih sayang yang begitu, boleh memadamkan ratusan kepahitan yang pernah hinggap ke kehidupan semalam.

DI PIHAK ANAK-ANAK

Ada pun untuk si anak, mereka harus diajak kepada membuat satu anjakan paradigma.

“Ibu bapa penting, mereka mesti kita hormati. Jaga perasaan mereka dan jangan tinggikan suara. Tetapi ada sesuatu yang lebih penting daripada mereka,” saya mengajak remaja itu bertenang.

“Apa dia?” tanya beliau.

“Diri kamu sendiri!” saya merenung matanya. Mahu menambah kesungguhan maksud.

“Maksud ustaz?” beliau kurang faham.

“Dalam hidup ini, ada banyak benda yang kita tidak boleh pilih. Kamu tidak memilih untuk beribu bapakan mereka. Kamu juga tidak memilih untuk dilahirkan sebagai Melayu. Juga tidak memilih untuk lahir di Malaysia. Tidak dengan kulit seperti ini, atau hidung seperti itu, dan telinga sebegini. Betul?” saya menyoal.
Beliau mengangguk.

“Bukan itu sahaja. Nanti bila kamu semakin dewasa, makin banyak benda yang kamu tidak pilih tetapi terpaksa menghadapinya. Cuaca, kesesakan jalan raya, rakan kerja, dan banyak lagi. Jika kamu letakkan bahagia diri kamu pada semua perkara yang kamu tidak boleh pilih itu, maka tiadalah bahagia selama-lamanya. Kamu hilang kebahagian akibat kesesakan jalan raya, akibat cuaca, akibat fesyen, akibat sekolah, akibat tekanan rakan-rakan sebaya termasuk juga akibat ibu bapa. Susah tu!” tambah saya.
“Saya nampak apa yang ustaz maksudkan” kata beliau.

“Jadi apa yang kamu mahu lakukan?” saya memberi ruang untuk beliau berfikir sendiri.

TINDAKAN MANUSIA HEBAT

“Jangan pilih jalan yang susah untuk bahagia. Pilih jalan yang lebih senang” katanya.
Saya terpegun.

“Huh, macam mana tu?” saya kepingin untuk tahu.

“Kalau nak bahagia cara susah, saya kena ubah semua benda yang menyebabkan saya tidak bahagia. Dan itu mustahil. Tetapi jalan yang paling mudah untuk bahagia, ialah saya ubah apa yang saya paling boleh ubah!” katanya.

“Iaitu…” saya memintas kerana teruja.

“Diri saya sendiri!” katanya.

Saya hampir berdiri kerana terlalu seronok mendengar kesimpulan anak muda itu. Bangga dengan keupayaannya menangkap teladan.

“Cuma satu sahaja ustaz,” ujar beliau.

“Apa dia?” saya mahu tahu.

“Apa hikmahnya Allah bagi saya terlihat dan terpandang kelemahan ayah serta ibu?” tanya beliau. Jujur.
“Hmm. Bagi seorang anak yang ‘bahagia’, apa hendak semua dapat, semuanya elok-elok belaka, kamu rasa dia sedar tak dengan satu kelemahan yang boleh berlaku pada dirinya?” saya menjawab dengan soalan.
“Tidak. Apa dia ustaz?” beliau sedikit kebingungan.

“Dia tidak biasa dengan kekurangan. Dan tidak biasa menguruskan kelemahan. Jika dia tidak sedar dengan hal itu, bersediakah dia untuk menghadapi kekurangan suaminya bila dia berkahwin nanti? Bersediakah dia untuk menghadapi kekurangan anak-anaknya apabila dia menjadi ibu nanti? Kamu rasa bagaimana?” saya menyoalnya lagi.

“Mungkin bersedia. Mungkin tak bersedia. Entah!” kata remaja itu.
“Tapi kamu, kerana sudah belajar menerima dan menguruskan kekurangan ibu bapa, kamu bersedia tak andaikata suami kamu nanti ada kekurangan, anak-anak ada kekurangan?” saya menyambung tanya.
“Bersedia!” kata beliau dengan yakin.

“Rupa-rupanya, kekurangan ibu dan bapa kamu itu, adalah didikan Allah untuk menjadikan kamu manusia hebat satu hari nanti. Insya Allah. Kamu yakin?” saya membuat kesimpulan.

You just have to believe!” jawab beliau, memetik filem tema KEM HIJRI kali ini, Kungfu Panda.
“Tahniah!” saya menyudahkan perbualan.

ABU SAIF @ www.saifulislam.com

Friday, February 5, 2010

Seorang wanita solehah adalah lebih baik daripada 70 orang wali.

Seorang wanita solehah adalah lebih baik daripada 70 lelaki soleh.

Seorang wanita yang jahat adalah lebih buruk daripada 1,000 lelaki yang jahat.

2 rakaat solat dari wanita yang hamil adalah lebih baik daripada 80 rakaat solat wanita yang tidak hamil.

Wanita yang memberi minum susu kepada anaknya daripada badannya (susu badan) akan dapat satu pahala daripada tiap-tiap titik susu yang diberikannya.


Wanita yang melayan dengan baik suami yang pulang ke rumah di dalam keadaan letih akan mendapat pahala jihad.

Wanita yang habiskan malamnya dengan tidur yang tidak selesa kerana menjaga anaknya yang sakit akan mendapat pahala seperti membebaskan 20 orang hamba.

Wanita yang melihat suaminya dengan kasih sayang dan suami yang melihat isterinya dengan
kasih sayang akan dipandang Allah dengan penuh rahmat.

Wanita yang menyebabkan suaminya keluar dan berjuang ke jalan Allah dan kemudian menjaga
adab rumahtangganya akan masuk syurga 500 tahun lebih awal daripada suaminya, akan menjadi
ketua 70,000 maalaikat dan bidadari dan wanita itu akan dimandikan di dalam syurga,dan menunggu
suaminya dengan menunggang kuda yang dibuat daripada yakut.

Wanita yang tidak cukup tidur pada malam hari kerana menjaga anak yang sakit akan diampunkan
oleh Allah akan seluruh dosanya dan bila dia hiburkan hati anaknya Allah memberi 12 tahun pahala ibadat.

Wanita yang memerah susu binatang dengan "bismillah" akan didoakan oleh binatang itu dengan doa keberkatan.

Wanita yang menguli tepung gandum dengan bismillah", Allah akan berkatkan rezekinya.

Wanita yang menyapu lantai dengan berzikir akan mendapat pahala seperti meyapu lantai di baitullah.

Wanita yang menjaga solat, puasa dan taat pada suami, Allah akan mengizinkannya untuk
memasuki syurga dari mana-mana pintu yang dia suka.

Wanita yang hamil akan dapat pahala berpuasa pada siang hari.


Wanita yang hamil akan dapat pahala beribadat pada malam hari.

Wanita yang bersalin akan mendapat pahala 70 tahun solat dan puasa dan setiap kesakitan pada satu uratnya Allah mengurniakan satu pahala haji.

Sekiranya wanita mati dalam masa 40 hari selepas bersalin, dia akan dikira sebagai mati syahid.

Jika wanita melayan suami tanpa khianat akan mendapat pahala 12 tahun solat.

Jika wanita menyusui anaknya sampai cukup tempoh (2 tahun), maka maalaikat-maalaikat di langit akan khabarkan berita bahawa syurga wajib baginya.

Jika wanita memberi susu badannya kepada anaknya yang menangis, Allah akan memberi pahala satu tahun solat dan puasa.

Jika wanita memicit suami tanpa disuruh akan mendapat pahala 7 tola emas dan jika wanita memicit suami bila disuruh akan mendapat pahala tola perak.

Wanita yang meniggal dunia dengan keredhaan suaminya akan memasuki syurga.

Jika suami mengajarkan isterinya satu masalah akan mendapat pahala 80 tahun ibadat.

Semua orang akan dipanggil untuk melihat wajah Allah di akhirat, tetapi Allah akan datang sendiri kepada wanita yang memberati auratnya iaitu memakai purdah di dunia ini dengan istiqamah.

Pandangan : Amatlah mudah bagi seorang wanita untuk menjejak Syurga.

Namun begitu mengapa terlalu ramai yang masih hidup dalam kejahilan? Sang suami pula perlu ingat, tidak kamu jejaki syurga sebelum keluarga kamu menjejak syurga. Jangan ingat hendak kahwin empat jika yang satu belum terbela. Yang belum kahwin tu ingat, kamu terdedah kepada kemungkaran. Iman akan dicabar sehebat-hebatnya ketika ini. Pilih lah Syurga dan bukannya Neraka. Siapa tahu, hari ini kita tak sampai ke rumah sebab dipertengahan jalan kita bertemu Izrail.

Siapa tahu, hari ini hari terakhir kita berjumpa pasangan kita sebab dipertengahan jalan, dia berjumpa Izrail. Bagaimana rasanya ketika berjumpa Izrail?

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Berikut disenaraikan gugusan kehendak wanita dari segi seks. Sumbernya adalah dari aduan kaum wanita sendiri akibat kecewa dengan sikap lelaki. Ianya bukan bermaksud seorang wanita itu mahukan kesemua yang disenaraikan, ianya bermaksud wanita itu ada berbagai kehendak dari segi ini dan masing-masing punya keperluan yang berbeza:

  • Lelaki patut lebih ceria semasa melakukan seks.
  • Makan malam bersama dan bersuap-suapan makan ke mulut pasangan sebelum melakukannya.
  • Tidak suka lelaki menghimpit kerana sukar bernafas.
  • Gembira jika inzal tapi tak perlu inzal untuk merasa puas, asalkan suami dapat beri kemesraan.
  • Tidak suka lelaki yang pentingkan dir sendiri. Suka lelaki yang ambil berat tentang kehendak pasangan.
  • Gembira jika lelaki dapat menenangkan hatinya sebelum melakukannya.
  • Suka jika lelaki melayaninya seolah-olah mereka melakukannya buat pertama kali. Lelaki itu patut mengasihi serta lemah-lembut.
  • Merasa gembira bila lelaki memuji bahagian demi bahagian dari tubuhnya. Gemar melakukan diwaktu pagi.
  • Suka berendam dalam air sebelum melakukannya.
  • Gemar jika lelaki bergilir-gilir melakukannya sekali untuk pasangannya, kemudian untuk dirinya pula
  • Gembira jika dipanggil dengan nama-nama manja sebelum melakukannya.
  • Benci bila melakukannya setelah selesai saja makan malam.
  • Tidak suka lelaki yang gelojoh di atas ranjang, sepatutnya bertenang dan jangan terkejar-kejar tidak tentu hala.
  • Tidak akan merasa jemu mendengar lelaki memuji betapa jelitanya dia.
  • Gembira jika lelaki menumpukan perhatian pada dirinya bila melakukannya, bukan pada benda lain.
  • Tidak suka jika lelaki memakai minyak wangi yang tidak sedap baunya.
  • Suka jika lelaki memberitahunya apakah yang telah dilakukannya dengan betul, bukan hanya kesalahannya.
  • Gemar jika lelaki yang membukakan pakaiannya.
  • Suka berjanji dulu pada hari bila dan waktu bila mahu melakukannya, dan janji itu perlu ditunaikan.
  • Gembira jika lelaki menunjukkan kasih sayang setelah melakukannya melebihi masa sebelumnya.
  • Suka melakukannya dalam suasana udara yang hangat.
  • Gemar hanya melakukan di atas ranjang.
  • Tidak gemar bila lelaki menunjukkan kegagahan dan kekerasan semasa melakukannya.
  • Gembira mendengar sesuatu yang menghairahkan dikatakan oleh lelaki sebelum melakukannya.
  • Tidak suka jika lelaki membawa makanan ke ranjang.
  • Tidak suka melakukannya jika malam sudah terlalu lewat.
  • Tidak gemar bila lelaki melakukan cara yang sama saja setiap kali bersama.
  • Gemar jika lelaki membelai-belai rambutnya sebelum melakukannya.
  • Benci bila lelaki terus mencabut keluar zakarnya sebaik saja inzal.
  • Gembira jika lelaki berkata dengannya pada masa itu dengan nada suara yang rendah dan dalam.
  • Tidak suka pada lelaki yang memaksa.
  • Suka jika lelaki meniup-niupkan nafas yang hangat ke telinganya.
  • Suka lelaki yang berterus-terang apakah kelemahan lelaki itu dari sudut seks.
  • Tidak suka lelaki yang serta-merta mahu memulakannya tanpa ringan-ringan.
  • Gembira jika jari kakinya diurut terlebih dahulu.
  • Tidak suka lelaki yang melakukannya sebelum lelaki itu mandi.
  • Tidak suka lelaki yang mencakar-cakar tubuhnya dengan rakus.
  • Gemar jika lelaki berada di atas dan mengawal aktiviti.
  • Tidak suka melakukannya bila anak-anak masih jaga atau ada di rumah.
  • Suka dan akan melayani sepenuh hati lelaki yang kuat bekerja mencari nafkah utnuk keluarga.
  • Gemar menunggu melakukannya dalam keadaan cahaya terang.
  • Gembira melakukannya sambil muzik lembut berkumandang.
  • Gemar jika lelaki melakukannya dengan lemah-lembut dan perlahan.
  • Suka jika lelaki menghadiahkan padanya bunga.
  • Gemar jika lelaki tunjukkan kasih sayang yang tinggi semasa melakukannya.
  • Menganggap rahsia seks ialah kejujuran.
  • Sama ada inzal atau tidak dan berapa kali inzal tidak penting. Adakalanya mahu memberi, adakalanya hanya mahu menerima.
  • Gemar disentuh sebelum, ketika, setelah dan luar masa melakukan seks.
  • Gembira jika lelaki menjilat sekitar payudara kemudian meniupnya dengan lembut.
  • Suka jika lelaki itu merasa bangga ketika bersamanya.
  • Perlukan perhatian dan masa.
  • Suka jika ia dapat berterusan sepanjang malam.
  • Gembira sekiranya lelaki menyatakan perasaan nikmatnya bilamelakukannya.
  • Suka jika zakar disorong lambat dan ditarik dengan cepat semasa dayungan.
  • Gemar jika lelaki peka kepada kehendak dan perasaannya.
  • Suka jika berpegangan dan berpimpin tangan.
  • Suka sekiranya seks itu menjadi menifestasi cinta.
  • Gembira diperlakukan dengan kasar.
  • Tidak gemar jika seks di anggap oleh lelaki sebagai rutin kerana itu tidak menyeronokkan.
  • Gemar meraba dan diraba hingga tidak tertahan lagi kegelian.
  • Selepas melakukannya suka tidur di dalam rangkulan lelaki.
  • Suka jika lelaki melakukan sesuatu yang memeranjatkan di ranjang.
  • Gembira kerana lelaki melakukannya bersamanya setiap hari dengan kata dan layanan yang baik.
  • Suka jika lelaki menggunakan tangannya untuk menjelajah ke seluruh tubuhnya dan betisnya dibelai.
  • Tidak pernah masuk tidur dengan keadaan marah atau bosan, semua masalah diselaiskan dahulu.
  • Gemar jari-jarinya disedut oleh lelaki.
  • Seks patut mengembirakan bukan sesuatu yang menyedihkan hati.
  • Mesti mahukan inzal bila melakukannya.
  • Suka meletak bantal di bawah pinggul bila melakukannya dalam keadaan lelaki di atas dan dia baring terlentang.
  • Gemarkan posisi-posisi baru.
  • Suka jika payudara diramas dengan lemah-lembut seolah-olah menjaganya jangan pecah.
  • Rasa istimewa bila lelaki memberikan perhatian yang tidak berbelah bagi.
  • Tidak sudi kepada lelaki yang tidak mempunyai perasaan kepadanya.
  • Semasa di ranjang mahu dianggap sebagai wanita sempurna segala segi.
  • Lelaki yang lemah-lembut dan baik hati menjadi idaman.
  • Melakukannya di tempat ganjil menjadi hobi.
  • Sanggup menjadi hamba seks lelaki asalkan lelaki pun begitu.
  • Lebih lama lelaki bersabar sebelum memulakannya, lebih cepat wanita inzal.
  • Mahu tahu apa yang lelaki tertarik dengan dirinya.
  • Suka lelaki yang bersopan.
  • Lebih suka jika lelaki tunjukkan kasih sayang dengan cara bukan seksual.
  • Suka jika dapat tentukan sendiri masa untuk melakukannya, tidak hanya lelaki sahaja.
  • Saya tidak mahu seks, saya mahu memadu cinta.
  • Gembira jika lelaki menyuruhnya memainkan peranan aktif sekali-sekala.
  • Suka lelaki yang bersabar.
  • Gemar bergurau senda selepas melakukannya dan anggap itulah paduan cinta yang sebenar.
  • Suka cara yang berbeza-beza.
  • Gemar jika dicium lembut sambil masuk ke kamar.
  • Rasa selesa dan selamat melakukannya dengan lelaki yang setia.
  • Benci bila lelaki menolak ajakannya.
  • Gemar jika lelaki memegang tangannya sambil masuk ke kamar.

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